Emotions are a strong force and you can’t simply divert them.If I told you it was possible to turn them off, I would be lying.The point is that it takes time.When I told you to press the reset button, I meant for you to change your view of the world around you, not to change your emotions.For emotions, it takes time to change.Maybe you will never manage to change your emotions entirely, but you will learn how to redirect them and control them.The most important thing is for you to change your perception of the world and the people around you.That takes much less time.You will continue to feel all that you felt before, but with help, you will learn how to control your emotions.Until you divert the river you can build a dam and slow the river’s flow.Practicing emotional intelligence can help you successfully control your emotions, but it also affects the way you deal with stress and tension at work.By remaining constructive, focused and compassionate, you can build relationships that will thrive.These are the three steps.Understanding yourself makes it easier for you to understand others.So, focus on yourself.People acknowledge this honesty, they will identify with you, and you will easily gain their trust.Accept who and what you are.Believe me, those famous words, the truth will set you free are not meaningless.Recognize the burdens in your environment and try to resolve them.Plan in advance, and be prepared to react.Refrain from intervening in the problems of others, and don’t be too quick to offer your help to others.Remember what I said earlier, everyone is responsible for their own decisions.Don’t give any advice at all.You must resist that urge, that little voice that tells you everyone needs salvation, and that only you can provide it.How to learn to control your emotions?Controlling one’s emotions requires identifying, managing, and responding to them in a manner that allows them to become useful aspects of our inner experience.Controlling emotions is one of 28 transversal skills that can help you rebuild yourself.Controlling your emotions does not mean that you should ignore, or amplify them.You need to understand that no emotion is an enemy, neither anger nor fear, nor is it sadness.There is no bad emotion just as there is no good emotion.Emotions only determine if you feel better or if you feel worse.For example, when angry, you may behave inappropriately toward someone.In contrast, when angry, you may be motivated to fight for yourself, or defend yourself.You can easily see how subjective the emotion of anger can be sometimes a force for evil, at other times a force for good.When your emotions seem confusing, overwhelming or paralyzing, they cannot serve you well.This therapy is easy to follow, and with a little practice, you can learn the skill of managing your emotions.Understanding your emotions.Examine and describe what you are feeling.Don’t go for the emotions right away, but instead, take a sensible and prudent pause between feeling and reaction.Pay attention to your experiences.This may sound like a simple concept, but it isn’t.What role do emotions play in your life?Honestly, evaluate your understanding of your emotional experiences.Imagine how much your life can change for the better if you analyze your emotional experiences.Accept your feelings and do not hide them.The more you choose, consciously or unconsciously, to avoid your emotions, the more likely they are to hurt when you face them later.They will be waiting for you just around the bend.That is why you must be honest with yourself, and acknowledge them.It may be painful, but relief will follow.Use no stress methods.Try substituting one reaction for another.A substitute reaction can distract you from the previously unfavorable reaction.It is helpful to learn this technique when facing unpleasant emotional experiences that may result from fear, anxiety, anger, guilt, or shame.Enhance positive experiences.Try applying it to your inner psychological experience from a different paradigm, you are what you think or, you are what you do.Focusing on negative, sad, unpleasant thoughts, or behaviors will do you no good.Just as we can create an intense inner state of sadness, so can we create an inner state of peace.Actively direct your thoughts and actions toward positive and healthy endeavors.Express gratitude for everything you experience, good or bad.Additionally, you should talk to a friend or partner, or take a walk, or take a bath, or listen to soothing music, or you write down the things you are grateful for in your journal.Be mentally present in the moment.If your thoughts are in the present, your attachment to the past will loosen.Mindfulness allows you to be fully in the present moment.In this way, you can detach from your traumatic past.Often, concerns about the past or the future distract us from the present moment to a point that we begin to feel that we are not in touch with ourselves.This is why it is important to connect with your inner self and be mentally present in the present moment.Regardless of how intense or unpleasant the emotions of the present moment may be, time will pass.Emotional experiences are temporary.Become a conscious and curious observer of your experiences and you will notice that you have a new connection with your emotions.They have no magical power over you.Be aware of your triggers.Learning to effectively control our emotions requires regular exercise.Know that when you have mastered them, you will feel like you are the captain of your ship and you will realize that everything was worth the effort.Emotions will not take over your life or interfere with your when you learn to understand them, and to manage and respond to them more effectively.